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Many people die with their music still
in them. Why is this so? Too often it is
because they are always getting ready to
live. Before they know it, time runs out.
- Oliver Wendell Holmes
It’s
never too late to get started!
Do you remember when you were a kid and
every day was new and fresh. All you wanted
was to wake up and get going on whatever
made you happy on that morning. Then along
came maturity and slapped you in the face
with the belief you had to be dependable,
or at the very least predictable. Magnificent
dreams gave way to being a solid performer
at work, a good care giver at home, and
always being “a good role model”,
what ever that means.
Is it any wonder that millions of people
now start the day wondering if there is
something more out there? Did they make
the right decision when they gave up dancing
for accounting? Where did the last several
years go? Wasn’t this just supposed
to be the job that held me over until my
big break happened?
It is not too late to go find what makes
you happy if you start today!
Oh I see you sitting there thinking “Right
I will just walk in to the office tomorrow
and quit. I’ll just pack up the kids
in the SUV and head for Borneo.” If
that is what it will take to make you happy
then my answer is yes by all means go for
it. But the reality is that probably is
not what you are really looking for.
I have a hunch that no matter how thrilling
that prospect sounds it will not make you
happy. After a few days you will start to
miss the comfort of a fully stocked refrigerator,
the kids will tire of frolicking on the
beach and need to be entertained, the conversation
of peers around the water cooler will not
seem as inane as it once did now that you
are talking to yourself in your mud hut.
In all likely hood what you really long
for is one or more of the following. The
adventure of discovering something new for
the first time, the pride in having set
a goal and made progress toward it’s
accomplishment, the sheer joy of helping
someone else, or the rush of creating something
of your very own from scratch. When you
look back weren’t these things the
real joys of those early years.
So how do we get them back? The first thing
you have to do is find a way to carve out
some selfish time just for you. It doesn’t
have to be a lot just an hour or so every
couple of days. Get up early, stay up late,
let the laundry go one more day (you have
plenty of not so dirty cloths if you look).
Do what ever it takes but find that time.
Now that you have that hour what can you
do?
Well for adventure and discovery how about
reading a book or better yet take a class.
Not something goal related either, just
open the catalog and pick the first title
that sounds interesting. Hmmm why not spend
1 hour a week for the next 3 weeks learning
about pigmy frogs in the Amazon? Or go to
that lecture at the library on Great Architecture
of North Carolina? Remember the whole idea
is to explore something you don’t
know anything about but sounds interesting.
What if you are wrong, it cost you an hour
and you at least got a great story to tell
about how bad it was.
Another option is to go ahead and start
that project you keep putting off. The difference
is this time make yourself a schedule and
use your 1 hour to dedicate to the effort.
True it will take years to finish that novel
you want to write, but each hour you will
be closer then if you sit on the couch and
do nothing.
For that extra rush of adrenaline why not
volunteer. There are schools, parks and
recreation associations, civic and social
groups that always are in need of an extra
pair of hands. You don’t have to be
good you just have to be willing. It is
amazing how much you will get in return
for giving just a little time and effort
for someone else.
The bottom line is it is never too late
to get started. And who knows when you are
out there exploring, working on your dreams
or volunteering you may find your One True
Thing that brings the joy back into your
life. You may even find a way to make a
living at it. If all else fails there is
always Borneo.
Don’t die with your music still inside
you.
- Steve Farmer
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